How to be a Real “High Value Woman”

Ladies,

Our words, behavior, and of course our etiquette comprise parts of our character. Even how we present ourselves in our appearance is a way we convey polite and considerate conduct, convey loveliness and even bring a sense of motivation, respect, and cheeriness around us. Beautification and manners are indeed important, but it is something far more significant within yourself that defines you as a “high value woman.” But that is not to say that all of the other good attributes do not also stem from it.

The Holy Bible gives the full picture of what it means to be a “high value woman”.

While some of these traits end up converging with the world’s ideas about high value, such as manners and poise, the deeper core of these characteristics is profoundly spiritual.

Things like a beautiful spirit, peace, and amiability come from the inside, not just practiced behavior on the outside. We do well to adhere to good etiquette, but we do best when we are transformed on the inside not just coiffed on the outside.

Afterall, how could one ever show perfect courtesy toward all people without the help of The Lord Jesus? We cannot do it. You can learn all of the outward tips to being a “high value woman” but those things only go so deep. We need everything we do and say to stem from the inside transformation to be truly different. We need The Lord Jesus to work in us to have this kind of wisdom, peace, and love.

One of the most notable chapters in the Holy Bible on being a high value woman, as we would call it today, is detailed in a passage on being an excellent wife.

The Proverbs 31 passage gives us a thorough look at the specifics of what makes a woman, and specifically a wife, one who “surpasses them all“. Come to find out, it is in what she does and what she does is born of her deeper character of valuing what God values. The high value woman embraces her God given role to be a helpmate to her husband and caring for her family with excellence:

A woman of excellence, or “high value”, is a hard worker. She is not an idle woman, letting her house rot in neglect, or not meeting the needs of her family. She is “looking well” to her household and to do that, she is astute and skilled in what to do daily to care for her family.

One of the main priorities she spearheads is feeding her family.

We know full well just how much work is involved in this one task. From the mental gymnastics of meal planning, list making, grocery shopping, hauling goods from the store to the car, from the car to the house, organizing everything and then meal making day in and day out, more than once per day. We know that food is a job all on its own that is perhaps why it is mentioned high up on the list of things that she does.

She not only provides food for her family; this is the verse that we find our she is also feeding maid servants! She has help. She is a woman who delegates duties which allows her time for her other endeavors. This excellent woman is described as one of skillful work and good business sense.

In our modern minds, we may automatically picture a 40 hour per week career. But this woman was still doing many other things described in the passage, not forsaking these other things as less important in order to be earning money. But we see how much she put into her work that her lamp does not go out at night. The important take-away is that we can have business pursuits in light of prioritizing our families, never degrading that pursuit either. Earning money can be a way we bless our family if done in a way that blesses them.

She does not just make garments and sell them; she does her work to dress her family in quality clothing for the seasons. This is not a situation of “the cobbler’s son has no shoes” or the maid’s house is never clean because she cleaned for someone else all day. This excellent wife has taken care of her own:

She prioritizes the household items such as bed coverings and even makes her own clothing out of beautiful and quality material. In this passage we see how she meets practical needs and also how excellence means an eye for quality and beauty.

This woman of excellence does not just serve herself but helps those in need.

This next verse beautifully describes that dignity is inward, but the effects are outward too. She might be strong, but her strength is also that she trusts God and instead of fretting about the future, she can laugh at it.

A high value woman is wise.

Women can say a lot, even too much. Scripture admonishes us to not be idle, gossips and busybodies. We are to mind our own business and live quiet lives. We are also told to be slow to speak and quick to listen and slow to anger. Titus 2 is a well-known Bible passage about how Christian women should behave, and it specifically tells us to be kind. So, I particularly like that this passage says that when she speaks, it is something wise. Moreso, when she speaks, it is something kind.

Ultimately, an excellent or “high value woman” does not just do things to be high class.

Her inner character is filled with respect for God, honor for God’s design for woman, and how she can fulfill her role as worship to God, which produces a woman of character who embodies individual desirable qualities. Trustworthiness. Work ethic. Wisdom. Kindness. This is why she is an excellent wife, because she does what is right in God’s eyes toward her husband and family. She does not follow emotions, moods or self-centeredness.

Ultimately, a high value woman is not just charming or beautiful, because that can be deceptive and vain.

Her inner excellence comes from loving God and doing what is good and right.

Even if a husband does not respond positively to her efforts, even if other people think little of her, ultimately, a real high value woman’s excellence lies in this: